This week's topic: Talking to Kids About Job Loss
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The Economy and Your Family
Host: As the current economic crisis puts more strain on families, you may be wondering what impact it has on your children. They may not understand all of the finer details of the economy but it's definitely safe to say that your kids have learned about the situation from the news and adult conversations. We’re welcoming back licensed social-worker Jim Clark, who serves as President and CEO of daniel, Florida
Jim, how do you talk to your children about layoffs?
Jim: Whether you’re recently unemployed or just concerned about impending layoffs, kids want to be reassured that you’re the grown-up. Being the grown-up means having a plan in place for dealing with unemployment. Kids may ask, “Will we have food on the table? Will we have a roof over our heads?” It’s important to anticipate those questions and have honest answers for them. As their parent, it’s your job to explain and comfort them.
Host: So where do you even begin trying explaining such a tough topic?
Jim: You might start with a question like, "What have you heard?" or a simple explanation: "I don't have a job anymore so for a little while we won't have as much money to pay for some things." If there's something going on but it's not being talked about, then it's a whole lot scarier. Bring up how you feel about it -- I'm upset, I'm angry --- but also say what you're going to do about it and what your coping strategies are.
A good site for information on this is: www.micheleborba.com
Host: What are some coping strategies?
Jim:
(1) Its fine to give younger children a sense of the big picture but teens can benefit from hearing some of the details. You could even share with them the specific expenses you'll have to cover every month: “We have to cover the mortgage and the car loan so we'll be cutting back on vacations and going out for dinner.” Letting your kids know what the plan is will reassure them. It just may just reassure you, too.
(2) Involve your kids so that they feel like they are part of the solution. You can suggest things like babysitting, mowing lawns, or walking pets as ways that they can make money. This won’t make up for lost wages but if they’re earning their own money to pay for a new pair of shoes or jeans, it will give them a sense of power, control, and contribution. Younger kids can help simply by agreeing to cut back on favorite treats and toys.
(3) Remember to try to appear optimistic even in the worst-case scenario. Your kids watch your behavior closely and take their lead from your attitude. Your aim as a parent is to give your child the impression that you're confident everything will turn out for the best even if you're a nervous wreck inside.
A good website for information on all of this is: www.familyeducation.com
Host: Thanks Jim, for more extensive information on this subject (including web sites that offer expert advice) check danielkids.org or news4jax.com.
Note: Links:
www.familyeducation.com
www.micheleborba.com
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